What Do I Want? How to Find Clarity When You Feel Stuck
Why this simple question is so hard to answer. And how clearing hidden blocks makes the answer effortless.
If you’ve found yourself asking “What do I want in life?”, you’re already standing at the edge of change. That question may sound simple, but for many people it’s surprisingly difficult to answer.
Some know exactly what they don’t want:
But when it comes to a clear knowing of what they do want, things get cloudy.
That’s not because you’re lazy, confused, or indecisive. More often than not, it’s because hidden patterns are blocking your clarity.
Why It’s Hard to Know What You Want
Most self-help advice says: “Ask better questions.” And that’s useful. But if part of you still feels blank or stuck when you ask, it means the answer is being held back beneath the surface.
Old experiences, unresolved trauma, even unconscious fears can sit like “corrupt files” in your system. They keep replaying, pulling your focus onto what you don’t want. And that makes it difficult to feel what you do want with certainty.
If you’ve been wondering “Why can’t I figure out what I want in life?”, the answer is often that the real blocks are hidden, not obvious.
A Simple Exercise You Can Try
If you’re feeling stuck, you might find this exercise helpful. If you don't, you'll find out why in the next section.
So one quick way forward is to write down everything you don’t want.
- I don’t want to feel anxious
- I don’t want financial struggles
- I don’t want to be in the wrong relationship
Then, flip each into its opposite:
- I want to feel calm and confident
- I want to be secure with finances
- I want a relationship that truly supports me
This shift can help surface desires that were hiding behind the negatives. But even with this, some people still feel a gap, as if the real answer is out of reach.
Why “Conventional Wisdom” Doesn’t Always Work
Now, here’s something important I want to acknowledge.
For many people, writing down what they don’t want and flipping it into what they do want feels helpful. But for others, it doesn’t.
I know this because it never worked for me.
None of these kinds of exercises ever worked for me. In fact, they sometimes made things worse. It looked like everyone else was able to get clarity with these neat little exercises. But I would usually feel just as stuck as I was before.
If that’s been your experience too, you’re not alone.
Logical methods can be useful tools, but they don’t always reach the deeper layers of what’s really blocking clarity. And when those hidden blocks are in the way, no amount of list-making or “positive flipping” will get you to the answer.
That’s why I started looking for — and eventually found — an approach that clears the real causes of stuckness, instead of trying to “think” my way out of it.
When You Still Can’t Find the Answer
Sometimes it’s not that you don’t have desires, it’s that something is blocking the natural flow of your energy.
Think of your life energy like a river. When the water flows freely, it has a smooth, natural movement finding its path forward.
But when there are unseen boulders sitting in the riverbed, the current gets disrupted. The flow becomes turbulent, uncertain, and stuck in places.
Boulders in a river disrupt the flow of water, just like unresolved experiences block the flow of energy
Those “boulders” are the hidden blocks. They're the unresolved experiences, old fears, unconscious patterns that sit beneath the surface. They’re not visible at first glance, but they change everything about how the river flows.
It’s the same with clarity.
When those unseen boulders are in the way, asking “What do I want?” feels frustrating, confusing, or impossible. Clear the unseen blocks and you allow your energy to flow again, without effort. And when your energy flows without effort, so do your answers, and clarity.
That’s where the Yuen Method comes in.
Instead of working only with your conscious mind, it clears the energetic “weaknesses” that cloud your awareness. It removes the boulders from your riverbed. Once those blocks are gone, clarity begins to appear.
Naturally.
Without effort, forcing, or overthinking.
Many people describe it as finally being able to hear their inner signal clearly. Often for the first time.
Next Step
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FAQs: When You Don’t Know What You Want in Life
Q: Why don’t I know what I want in life?
Often it’s because unconscious patterns and unresolved experiences are blocking clarity. Logical exercises can help some people, but if they haven’t worked for you, it’s likely deeper blocks are in the way.
Q: What can I do if journaling doesn’t help me get clarity?
Journaling is useful for some, but if it leaves you feeling stuck, you may need to address the hidden energetic or subconscious layers. That’s exactly what the Yuen Method focuses on clearing.
Q: How do I know what I want when I feel stuck?
The first step is noticing what you don’t want, then flipping it to the positive opposite. But if you still feel blank or uncertain, it usually means unseen blocks are disrupting your flow. Once those are cleared, the answer often comes naturally.