If you’ve ever asked yourself “What do I want?”, you have taken the first step towards creating the life that you desire.
The difference between a great life, a mediocre life and a downright sorrowful life can, to a large extent, be determined by the quality of your thoughts and the quality of the questions you ask.
“The quality of your life is determined by the quality of the questions you ask”. If you don’t like the answers you’re getting (the way your life is), then perhaps you’ve been asking the wrong questions, which means it’s now time to start asking different (better) questions.
What do you want?
Right now, if you could have all that you want in life , what would it be?
Amazingly, when I ask this question to clients and other people I meet along the way, all too often, they can’t actually answer it, as simple as the questions actually is.
Don’t be down on yourself if you’re one of those people. Instead, just notice what comes up as you ask yourself, “What do I want?”
You see, the fact that you’re here right now reading this means there’s a part of you that’s ready for something different and ready for positive changes to happen in your life. It doesn’t matter yet if you don’t know what you want, because the most important quality needed for change is simply the desire for change.
A Simple Tip For Discovering What You Want
I’d like to share with you a really simple and, at the same time, profoundly effective tip for discovering what it is that you want:
Ask yourself, “What do I not want” and then write down everything that comes to mind. Again, don’t judge it or edit it – just write it down. Everything!
This is a question that most people have no problem answering!
To help get you started are, here are some of the more common responses:
- I don’t want to be fat
- I don’t want to be thin
- I don’t want to struggle financially
- I don’t want to work in this boring, dead end job for the rest of my life
- I don’t want to put all my energy into helping someone else become rich
- I don’t want to be unfit
- I don’t want to be unhealthy
- I don’t want to be single
- I don’t want to be lonely
- I don’t want to live here anymore
- The list goes on…
So get writing and don’t stop until you’ve exhausted everything that comes to mind (you can always add to the list later if anything else pops up).
Now you’ve done that, you can again ask yourself, “What do I want?” and this time the answers are there in abundance: you simply take all the thoughts that came to mind of the things that you don’t want and turn them around to their exact opposite.
So if, for example, you said “I don’t want to be unhealthy”, then what you do want is to be healthy, right?
Turn every “I don’t want…” thought around to its positive opposite so you know what you do want.
The quality of your life is determined by the quality of the questions you ask, and you are now starting to ask better questions.
Prioritising What You Want
Now you’ve got a list of things you want, assign them a number in a priority list. You may want to be healthy and rich and married to the person of your dreams, but you’ll probably come crashing down, hard, if you attempt to make it all happen in one go.
Give it some thought or, better yet, just ask yourself “What do I want as a priority in my life right now?”, and then let it go. Don’t attempt to answer it right now; just ask the question and then allow whatever comes to mind over the next day or two, to come.
We’ll talk more about what to do next with the information that has come up for you, as well as the importance of letting things go so the answer can come as we continue on.